Four years ago this past Saturday, I lost my uncle to the 11th leading cause of death in the U.S. He was sick, but cancer didn’t devour his body, nor did cardiovascular disease quiet the beating of his heart. My uncle Rick took his own life.
He loved baseball, Janis Joplin and penguins. He loved us, and in a moment, he was gone.
His death leveled our family’s emotional defenses like an atomic blast. What was left in the rubble was rawness, anger and sadness. I have spent these past four years rebuilding that place in my heart to make it inhabitable again, and I am reaching out to you.
I’m writing this not to talk about my family’s own experiences but hopefully to call attention to a few things not all of us are thinking about. In 2006, according to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, there were 33,300 reported suicide deaths nationwide. For every 90 Americans who take their own lives each day, more than 2,000 attempt to do so. Chances are that you know a real person who has been affected by these statistics.
There are quite a few factors that contribute to suicide, and loved ones left behind are often left with many more questions than answers. But the foundation asserts that a key way to prevent these tragedies is through the recognition and treatment of depression and other psychiatric illnesses.
Mental illness is so stigmatized in our society. I see evidence of it every day. These attitudes force those already living with the pain of illness to shoulder the further burdens of isolation, discrimination and even threats or violence.
The National Alliance on Mental Illness, or NAMI, which is active locally, has a network dedicated to addressing stigma, and actress and advocate Glenn Close has recently filmed a public service announcement on the same issue.
I have seen communities come together around those who are sick and dying. I have seen people proudly sporting brightly colored ribbons to raise awareness for different health causes.
We must realize that people living with mental illness are not at fault and that their conditions can sometimes be as deadly as the ones we unhesitatingly rally behind. We must make it our business to help people get help and to overcome shame.
We have wonderful mental health resources in our community — from local psychiatrists, psychologists and counselors to the Macon County Mental Health Board, the Mental Health Association of Macon County, our local NAMI affiliate and Heritage Behavioral Health Center.
I urge you to get to know them. Learn about what they do and who they serve, and if you or someone you care about needs them now or in the future, use them.
And know that no matter the outcomes, the love and compassion you provide to those you care about in their times of need are some of the greatest gifts we human beings can ever give.
If you, or someone you know, is in suicidal crisis or emotional distress please call 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
For more information, visit the Suicide Prevention Lifeline Web site.